I happen to notice it on Facebook and cringed a little. You might ask, "How could a statement like that cause that reaction?"
I haven't researched what Cooley was pointing out; however, it seems that the quote or message was intended to validate pride as a nice and admirable predisposition, while implying that arrogance is not desirable. In other words, it seems like Cooley was declaring that it's not cool to be arrogant, but pride works great. I don't know. Maybe he was concurring with what I'm about to share.
The statement, in and of itself is valid, e.g. pride can elicit a smile, while arrogance can elicit a frown, albeit both can elicit a smile or a frown. First, to avoid confusion over semantics click here to review the definition of pride to which this article responds. Based on this definition; metaphysically speaking, the presumed meaning of the quote is a gross mistake.
Pride and arrogance are on the same side of the coin. Pride is a predisposition and precursor for arrogance to occur. Pride is a hidden ingredient of separatism. This might sound strange. Still, our acceptance and celebration of pride is a part of what makes "hate" pervasive and insidious in the human experience. It perpetuates the illusion of separation, keeping us unconscious and distracting us from remembering and realizing that we are organically One. The opposite side of the coin shines admiration, gratitude, respect, celebration and the like. Thanks for the opportunity to look and remember. ♥